Tom, in summing up Jim O'Connor, seems to see him as just a plain individual. Certainly during the course of the play, he shows no exceptional qualities. Quite the contrary, in the next scene, he will be seen as a rather blundering and awkward person.
Notice that a large part of Laura's nervousness and sickness in this scene is brought about by Amanda's constant fretting and bothering. Laura even says to her: "Mother, you've made me so nervous." Again this shows Amanda's inability to understand her children. This is emphasized again when Amanda tells Laura that "you couldn't be satisfied with just sitting home." In reality, Laura would be quite content to remain home alone — she seems at this point to have no desire to meet other people.
Before Jim O'Connor arrives, Amanda is busy changing into the dress that she wore when she met her husband. Again, it is difficult to know whether Amanda wants gentlemen callers for herself or for Laura. Certainly, she wants Laura to get married, but it will be seen to be Amanda who enjoys the idea of having the gentleman caller. She reverts back to her girlish days in both behavior and dress, and she appears with jonquils, the same flowers she carried the summer she met her husband.
During the course of the conversation, Amanda mentions Mr. O'Connor's name. At this point Laura finds out that it is possibly the same Jim O'Connor she had a crush on in high school, and she tells Amanda that she will have to be excused. But Amanda will have no part of this "silliness." She forces Laura to open the door even though Laura is visibly agitated. Again, Amanda tries to make her children conform to her idea of behavior rather than letting them assert their own personalities.
